I cannot believe our sweet boys have been home for HALF A YEAR!!!
In some ways it seems like the fastest six months of our lives.
October 19, 2019 changed our lives forever. The boys arriving home made us a family of four and Reid and I became parents to two little boys, Frank age 5 and Blaise age 4.
There is no question that those first days were HARD. Our boys lives had been radically changed and everything they knew before was completely different half a world away.
We could not communicate in speech due to different languages spoken but oh, how we could communicate in LOVE-a universal language.
The first couple of months we worked on bonding and building the boys trust to know that we will forever take care and provide for their every need. In January, we entered a new season of having a child in Kindergarten and one in Pre-K.
The boys have truly adjusted better than we ever could have imagined. If you have met them, or honestly, just seen a picture of them- you know their joy is palpable. They are so happy. They radiate joy and are FUN to be around.
Seeing their eyes light up with each new experience and get so excited to tell us about new things they see or do is magical. It often times feels like Christmas morning again and again.
As much joy as there has been there has also been hard moments too.
Many times people will say, “Those boys are so lucky” Referring to them being lucky that they were adopted into our family.
You see, the boys are not lucky. There is nothing lucky about being an orphan, enduring trauma, and being placed into a new family. That is not the way I wish their story was written. In a perfect world, there would be no need for adoption.
And then I am reminded of the gospel. In a perfect world, we would not have brokenness to endure. Praise the Lord for adoption and God adopting us into his family in the midst of our broken world. What a gift.
So, no, our boys are not lucky, but their story will always reflect the love of our heavenly Father. Their presence in our family leads to questions and those questions ultimately lead to Jesus. And that is more than we could ever ask for!
We have learned that new normals aren’t always as scary as they seem from a distance. As humans, we naturally worship our own comfort. It would have been so easy to stay in the comfort of life of just Reid and I. But, if we would have continued to worship our own comfort and be scared of the thought of adoption…we would have missed the greatest gift ever granted to us. The honor of raising Frank and Blaise and teaching them about the greatest love story- the story of the Gospel and the love their Heavenly Father has for them.
Friends, adoption is scary. There is so many unknowns. I get that. But if adoption has been laid on your heart- Go for it. Go for it scared knowing that God is in every detail.
Adoption is a gift that we get to open everyday. A gift that we will never take lightly. A gift that brings us so many unknowns but so much joy as we navigate this new life together. Hand in hand and trusting God with every step we take. He makes all things beautiful!
Thank you for your love and support of our family. You all have blessed us in ways we will never be able to repay but we have learned much from your generosity and vow to pass that on to others.
ALL OUR LOVE!
Team Barker Party of FOUR